Fear is in fashion nowadays. Exalted via popular culture like never before, it’s the strongest of negative emotions that drives people individually and collectively. By keeping us hostage to a culture of trepidation and separation, people drift away from its opposite – love. The challenge of existence lies in trusting in the primordial force; in realising that fear blocks us from expressing our fullest potential. You’ve heard it all before. How it’s necessary to relinquish fear and espouse trust, faith and hope. The question is, how to claim back the power that has been given over to fear and lean on love instead.
Only Love Is Real, Everything Else Is A Call For Love
Whilst danger – a bolt of lightening for instance – is real, fear is the product of the mind, an illusion. Dangerous situations do occur and humans have been biologically programmed to respond to them, but anxiety is a learned behavior that takes over even when no real threat is necessarily involved.
In my sessions, I see these mental addictive loops, where people are programmed to reactively jump into fear without realizing. When the mind revisits past events when contemplating the future, two buttons – Rewind and Forward – jump between the past and the future. The minute the Play button stays on is when we lapse into Fear-Free mode. In the now there is no fear – safety prevails. In the NOW one’s most powerful self is expressed. This is why all the healing activities I undertake with my clients are ultimately related to guiding them to stay focused on living in the present moment.
Breaking the cycle of fear is an ongoing exercise, a daily practice of mindfulness. It requires the mind to restrain from oscillating between past and future. It is also a practice of honesty vis a vis ourselves. We should build the habit of facing our fears, having a conversation with them, understanding where they come from and learning to let go of them. We have to show the same honesty when discussing fears with our children because this is how we effectively help create the shift in the coming generations.